Luck.... thats all there is to it

The past few years have been a learning curve. We are all so occupied by our problems in life that we forget to look at the bigger picture. There were times when I was so depressed that I have contemplated ending it all. When I heard anything which started with "You are not the only one with problems...." I used to get wild. That hasnt changed today. Somehow the fact that others suffer problems worse than us doesnt make us feel better. Atleast it doesnt make me feel better. It is a bit perverse actually... to feel better just because there are people who suffer more.....

But today I read something and I just cant concentrate on work.... It also happens that we are born free, without restrictions that we never really question what our life could have been. I for one never considered it. A month back one of my Swedish work clients complimented me - "You are a great person and thats really something cause you are a woman". Of course this was done under the excess influence of alcohol :) but then I did a mock indignated look for that because hey how can you be angry with a drunk :)... but another person who heard this asked me "Did you take that as an insult or a compliment?" Although I said immediately that I did take it as an insult I did ask him (since he was obviously not drunk!), "What did you mean? How can I take that as a compliment?". And he said "Consider women in a few places like the Middle East or Africa". And then it dawned on me what hew as trying to ask about India.

I had a wonderful childhood and the best parents I can hope for. I have been given the precious gift of freedom of thought and action. Considering that I m 30 and still unmarried is enough to raise a few eyebrows here. Although they do worry, my parents have never forced any decision on me. Not even religion. I forget what my life could have been. Some people call it destiny but I would call it 'luck'. I am lucky.

I read about women part of a particular tribe called 'Kanjar' who live in Pakistan. I dont know what led me to this particular article but the way the women are treated disturbed me a great deal and triggered me to write this article. Suffice to say, I never usually think about all this but it does bring to mind that the freedom I have is precious and I m grateful for it. So thanks to that universal decision maker (whoever he is)! :)